There’s a very specific moment in every woman‑in‑tech’s life when she looks around a meeting room (or a Zoom grid) and thinks:

“Oh. It’s just me. Again.”

It’s that microsecond where your brain does a full emotional Olympics:

• Should I speak?

• Should I shrink?

• Should I pretend I’m fine?

• Should I run away and start a bakery?

• Should I unmute myself or just spiritually ascend?

And then someone inevitably says something like:

“Let’s keep this simple so everyone can follow,”
while looking directly at you.

Ah yes.
The classics.

But let me tell you about the day this moment hit me so hard it basically launched TechShe Pulse.

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🌿 The Meeting That Changed Everything

Picture this:
A grey conference room.
A long table.
Twelve men in identical navy jumpers.
One woman (me), wearing soft pink because I refuse to dress like a corporate blueberry.

The meeting starts.
Everyone talks over each other.
Someone explains an API to me, as I’ve never seen a computer before.
Someone else repeats my idea louder and gets praised for it.
Classic Tuesday.

But then — the moment.

I said something.
A good something.
A smart something.
A “wow, she really knows her stuff” something.

And the room went silent.

Not the respectful kind.
The “we’re ignoring you because we don’t know how to process a woman speaking confidently” kind.

And in that silence, my brain whispered:

“I’m done.”

Not done with tech.
Not done with my career.
Not done with my ambition.

Done with shrinking.
Done with apologising.
Done with being the only woman in the room and pretending it didn’t matter.

That was the day I decided to build something for women like me — women who are brilliant, exhausted, neurodivergent, soft, powerful, emotional, strategic, chaotic, and tired of pretending they’re not all of those things at once.

That was the day TechShe Pulse was born.

🌸 The Soft Rebellion

Here’s the thing:
I didn’t want to create another “girlboss” space.
I didn’t want hustle culture in a pink blazer.
I didn’t want “lean in” energy.
I didn’t want “just be confident” advice from people who have never been the only woman in the room.

I wanted softness.
I wanted honesty.
I wanted humour.
I wanted a space where women could say:

“I’m brilliant AND overwhelmed.”
“I’m ambitious AND tired.”
“I’m capable AND neurodivergent.”
“I’m powerful AND soft.”

So I started writing.
Not perfectly.
Not strategically.
Not with a content calendar.
Just… writing.

Writing about the chaos.
Writing about the micro‑moments.
Writing about the emotional labour of being a woman in tech.
Writing about the ND brain that forgets what it’s doing mid‑doing it.
Writing about the quiet resilience that women carry like a second skin.

And people started reading.
And sharing.
And messaging me saying:

“Thank you. I thought it was just me.”

That’s when I realised:
It was never just me.
It was all of us.

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🌿 The ND Brain in a Tech World

Let’s talk about the neurodivergent part for a second, because this is where things get spicy.

My brain is a browser with 47 tabs open, 12 frozen, 3 playing music I can’t find, and one tab that’s just a picture of a cat for emotional support.

And tech culture?
Oh, it LOVES linear thinkers.
It LOVES structure.
It LOVES “just follow the process.”
It LOVES “just focus.”
It LOVES “just do it this way.”

Meanwhile, my brain is like:

“I will do it… but sideways.”

So when I was the only woman AND the only ND brain in the room, it felt like I was playing a game where everyone else had the instructions and I was just vibing.

But here’s the twist:
My ND brain is my superpower.

It’s why I see patterns others miss.
It’s why I solve problems creatively.
It’s why I build ecosystems instead of tasks.
It’s why TechShe Pulse exists at all.

And if you’re reading this thinking “same,” then welcome — you’re in the right place.

🌸 The Moment I Stopped Shrinking

There was a moment — a very specific one — when everything shifted.

I was in another meeting.
Same navy jumpers.
Same energy.
Same “let’s explain things to her slowly” vibe.

But this time, I didn’t shrink.
I didn’t apologise.
I didn’t soften my voice.
I didn’t wait for permission.

I spoke.
Clearly.
Calmly.
Softly — but with power.

And the room listened.

Not because I changed.
But because I stopped pretending.

That’s the moment I realised:

Softness is not weakness.
Softness is a strategy.
Softness is power.

And that’s the energy I bring into TechShe Pulse.

🌿 What I Want Women in Tech to Know

You don’t need to be louder.
You don’t need to be tougher.
You don’t need to be more “corporate.”
You don’t need to be less emotional.
You don’t need to be less soft.
You don’t need to be less YOU.

You just need a space that understands you.

A space that sees you.
A space that celebrates you.
A space that supports you.
A space that doesn’t ask you to shrink.

That’s what TechShe Pulse is.
That’s what TechSheThink is.
That’s what this whole ecosystem is becoming.

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