🌸 Why My Tech Career Feels Like a Sitcom (And Why I’m Finally the Main Character)

There are days when working in tech feels like starring in a sitcom you didn’t audition for.

You walk into a meeting, spill your tea, forget your password, open 17 tabs, close the wrong one, and suddenly you’re explaining to a senior engineer why your laptop is making a noise that sounds like a dying pigeon.

Meanwhile, everyone else looks calm, collected, and suspiciously competent.

And you’re just there like:

“Is this… normal? Or am I the problem?”

Spoiler:

You’re not the problem.

Tech culture is the problem.

And also your laptop.

But mostly tech culture.

Let me tell you about the week I realised my entire career was basically a comedy series — and why embracing the chaos was the best thing I ever did.

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🌿 Episode 1: The Day I Tried to Look Professional and Failed Immediately

It started on a Monday.

Of course it did.

Mondays are cursed.

I woke up determined to be “Professional Patrycja.”
You know the one:

• hair brushed

• outfit matching

• laptop charged

• brain functioning

• hydration levels above “raisin”

I even made a to‑do list.

A real one.

With bullet points.

I walked into the office (okay, opened my laptop at home, but same energy), ready to conquer the world.

And then…

My camera turned on automatically.

I wasn’t ready.

My hair wasn’t ready.

My soul wasn’t ready.

I looked like a raccoon who had just discovered electricity.

Everyone else looked like they had slept eight hours and moisturised.

I tried to turn the camera off.

I clicked the wrong button.

I shared my screen instead.

My screen was…

Pinterest.

Specifically:

“Soft girl office aesthetic for women in tech.”

Professional Patrycja died that day.

🌸 Episode 2: The Meeting Where My ND Brain Went on Holiday

Later that week, I was in a meeting where someone said:

“Let’s circle back to the thing we discussed last Thursday.”

My ND brain:

What thing?

What Thursday?

What is time?

Who am I?

I tried to look confident.

I nodded.

I even wrote something down to look busy.

What did I write?

No idea.

It looked like a shopping list written by a toddler.

Then someone asked:

“Patrycja, what do you think?”

And my brain — my beautiful, chaotic, neurodivergent brain — said:

“Say something smart.”

So I did.

I said something smart.

Something brilliant.

Something that made sense.

And the room went silent.

Not because it was wrong.

But because they didn’t expect it.

And that’s when I realised something important:

Being underestimated is annoying…but it’s also my secret weapon.

🌿 Episode 3: The Day I Became the Main Character

There was a moment — a very specific one — when everything shifted.

I was in another meeting.

Same energy.

Same chaos.

Same “why am I here?” vibes.

But this time, I didn’t shrink.

I didn’t apologise.

I didn’t mask.

I didn’t pretend to be someone else.

I spoke softly.

But clearly.

And confidently.

And unapologetically.

And suddenly… I wasn’t the side character anymore.

I was the main character.

Not because I changed.

But because I stopped performing.

And that’s when TechShe Pulse was born — from the realisation that women in tech don’t need to be louder, tougher, or more “corporate.”

We need to be ourselves, fully and softly.

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🌸 Episode 4: The Soft Girl Tech Revolution

Here’s the truth nobody tells you:

You don’t need to “fix” yourself to succeed in tech.

You don’t need to:

• be less emotional

• be more logical

• be less soft

• be more assertive

• be less colourful

• be more robotic

You don’t need to become a machine to work with machines.

You need to understand your own rhythm.

Your own energy.

Your own brain.

Your own softness.

Softness is not weakness.

Softness is a strategy.

Softness is power.

And honestly?

Soft girls in tech are the future.

We’re the ones who bring emotional intelligence, creativity, intuition, and humanity into spaces that desperately need it.

We’re the ones who build ecosystems, not just systems.

We’re the ones who see patterns others miss.

We’re the ones who create community, not competition.

We’re the ones who turn chaos into clarity.

🌿 Episode 5: The Day I Stopped Apologising for Existing

One day, I caught myself apologising for:

• asking a question

• needing clarification

• taking a moment to think

• being overwhelmed

• being emotional

• being human

And I thought:

Why am I apologising for being a person?

Men don’t apologise for breathing.

Men don’t apologise for asking questions.

Men don’t apologise for taking up space.

So I stopped apologising too.

And everything changed.

My confidence grew.

My voice strengthened.

My ideas landed.

My presence expanded.

Not because I became someone else — but because I finally allowed myself to be me.

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